5 Reasons Why Your Man Isn’t “In the Mood”

You make “the moves” on your man… and he’s not interested. It can devastate your ego– leaving you feeling embarrassed and rejected. I mean, a man ALWAYS wants s*x, right? Wrong.

Here are 5 Reasons Why Your Man Isn’t “In the Mood”
1. He’s just plain exhausted, stressed, or preoccupied. Surely you can relate to being too tired, and maybe even too stressed, to have s*x. However, I think that s*x is the best stress reliever on the planet. Studies have shown that orgasms lower a person’s overall stress levels. When it comes to being preoccupied, you might be able to put your preoccupation aside, but men don’t have that ability. Men are much more linear in their thinking processes. They can’t multi-task the way women do. That means that when something is on their mind, it squeezes out just about everything else.
2. He’s sick or has hormonal imbalance; he may even have undiagnosed depression. Hormone imbalances such as seasonal affective disorder and hypothyroidism will lower libido, as will depression. What you may not realize is that many cases of depression go undiagnosed. This could be because they’re not acute depression, but it’s also partly because of our cultural bias against and shame about being depressed. Men tend to be particularly sensitive to shame because of gender expectations. They consider depression to be a weakness, and just about the last thing men want to be thought of is weak.
3. He’s cheating on you, and you don’t know it. I’m sorry, I know you don’t want to hear this one. Whether it’s a physical affair or an emotional one, if his attentions are one someone new, he’s unlikely to be having s*x with you. You might think that if it was just an emotional affair, you’d be having more s*x, since he’s not doing it with the object of his desires. However, his guilt about cheating, even if it’s not physical, will make him more likely to self service than to relieve his desire for another woman with you. (There’s something strangely comforting in that thought!) My advice: if you think he’s cheating, ask him. And listen to his body language along with his words. You’ll know in your gut if he’s telling the truth. It might not be easy to face, but it’s better than fooling yourself.

4. He no longer finds you attractive. He might be “in the mood” but just not in the mood to have s*x with YOU. This is the easiest reason to fix. All you have to do is something you’ve never done before. Men crave variety, especially when it comes to s*x. If you have the same kind of s*x whenever you hook up, that gets very boring. (C’mon, admit it: it’s probably boring to you, too.)
5. He has a low s*x drive for a man. Even men’s libidos wax and wane. It’s a myth that men are in the mood 24/7. I recently read an article that suggested one third of all relationships have men with lower s*x drives than their female partners. Particularly as they age, men’s s*x drives begin to wane. Luckily, most men are easily led when it comes to s*x– and I don’t mean this in a bad way!
If you have a partner whose libido is low, you may just have to be the initiator more often. Even if he’s not initially in the mood, with a little coaxing he’ll probably come around. Remember, men are very visual creatures. He may not be thinking about s*x, but if you saunter in front of the television in sexy lingerie, he’ll change his mind pretty quickly.
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